DEAR ABBY: My daughter was repeatedly date-raped on the age of 16. Her predator threatened to kill her if she ever advised, so she saved it to herself till she might get away from him. It was a really scary time in her life, however with the assistance of counseling she is working via it and transferring on along with her life.
The drawback is, whereas visiting with my in-laws it was identified to us that my mother-in-law had made a collage of images and included in it the one that raped my daughter. In all, there are 5 footage of him in group settings. When my husband requested her calmly to take away them, she refused. She says it might punish the opposite grandchildren if she eliminated the images, and it might “ruin her collage.”
We have requested her thrice, however she refuses to budge. She says all of us want counseling and that the request is totally out of line. Do you assume our request was out of line? — APPALLED IN ILLINOIS
DEAR APPALLED: Of course not! Was your mother-in-law conscious of what this individual had carried out to her granddaughter when the collage was created? If so, her response is weird and unbelievably insensitive.
Approach her as soon as extra and ask if she would comply with take the collage to a photographer so your daughter’s attacker may be digitally edited out of it. If that’s not attainable, maybe she would comply with take down the collage when your loved ones visits. However, if the response to that request can also be detrimental, I wouldn’t blame you should you went there very not often, if ever.
(This high merchandise is from the Dear Abby archives)
DEAR ABBY: I’ve a good friend who lived in my residence more often than not for about six years. During that interval, she rented out rooms in her home. She paid her payments, and I paid mine, however I coated her residing off me. At the time, it didn’t hassle me a lot as a result of I might afford it, though I might have most popular to avoid wasting that cash.
I’ve since offered that home and purchased my dream retirement residence in one other state. Now, I keep along with her, and her renters have moved out. It’s disagreeable generally as a result of when she will get drunk she accuses me of utilizing her. (It’s true, I’m.) Is it OK to make use of her by staying in her residence with out actually liking her a lot? I really feel it’s my flip to leech, and I’d like to stay it out till I retire in a couple of yr. — WAITING TO MOVE
DEAR WAITING: It’s OK with me so long as it’s OK with you. But don’t child your self. You’re not residing there rent-free. Tolerating an disagreeable drunk is the value you’re paying, and solely you possibly can decide whether or not it’s value it.
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