DEAR ABBY: My sister has been having an affair with a married man. When I requested if he was going to go away his spouse, she stated no, and it was high quality together with her. She claims his spouse is fats and that they’ve a son with extreme disabilities, and she or he (my sister) wouldn’t need the accountability of that, though I’m certain the boy would keep along with his mom.
She refers to him as her “honey,” and he buys her issues. (She has at all times been materialistic.) She stays in touch with him consistently on her iPad and says how a lot he loves her.
I’d wish to be open and have everybody get to find out about my honey as an alternative of sneaking round. When I say I don’t consider he loves her, she will get mad and accuses me of being jealous. I additionally informed her that if I liked somebody, I’d wish to be with him and never talk through e-mail. Gifts wouldn’t make up for the particular person not being with me, particularly if I claimed to like him.
I used to be in a relationship with a married man as soon as, however I wasn’t completely satisfied about it and ended it. Am I off base as a result of I really feel the best way I do? — SNEAKING AROUND IN MAINE
DEAR SNEAKING: You’re not off base. But you’re additionally not your sister. The two of you seem to have very totally different values. While you need a full relationship, the “crumbs” and goodies she’s getting from her honey could also be sufficient for her, and she or he could regard their stolen moments as thrilling. If she have been hoping for greater than the established order, I’d say she’s losing her time. But she appears to know the rating.
This entry is from the Dear Abby archives from 2018